One of the things I like most about traveling is that you don’t have to work very hard to be childlike. On any given day, children have a very strong chance of seeing something they’ve never seen before. The older we get, the more things we’ve seen, making the chance of seeing something new less likely. It is certainly possible to see something new everyday no matter how old you are; you just have to work a little harder.
But when you’re traveling, away from your normal routine, somehow life has a way of seeming brand new. As I spend most of my time in Wisconsin, it is not every day that I get to see the sun set over the Gulf of Mexico, plunging itself into the purple and orange horizon. It’s not often that I have the chance to take my daily walk along a shell strewn beach as waves lap at my feet. And the last time I had the opportunity to see pods of dolphins playing in their natural habitat was — never. I am sure these things are nothing new for the people who live here. Ho-hum. No big deal. But that’s not the point. This stuff is new to me, just as the rolling autumn hills and stunning rock formations of Wisconsin would be new to the residents here in Tampa Bay. For me, traveling is a magic elixir that helps me to renew my sense of wonder and change my state of mind. It’s amazing how much our perspective changes when we take the time to look for something new.
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Jason and I have been busy relaxing these last few days. He had a gig in the Tampa area, so we decided to tack on a few days to bury ourselves in relaxation. Actually, since the weather cooperated, I asked Jason to bury me in the sand. It was awesome.
I have to admit the process of being buried in the sand was similar for me to the process of trying to hurry up and relax. You know how it is – you have a certain amount of time, with certain restrictions, and your goal is to relax as soon as possible.
As the sand started to cover more and more of my body I tensed up. It was chilly and heavy and my body was not liking it at first. Then I took a deep breath and relaxed myself. At last, everything felt different. The sand no longer felt cold. The heaviness of the sand was comforting, like a warm blanket on a cold night. It was glorious!
How often do I ‘tense up’ in situations and not allow myself to breath and ‘let go?’ Whether it’s in a busy period or a time of relaxing, I find myself over thinking things and tensing up. What started off as some sand fun turned into a life lesson. It seems like God likes to use nature to show me things about life and about me. The other lesson I learned is that sand likes to stick with you. I think I’ll still be finding sand on me next week in Wisconsin.
(Yes, those are my big toes.)
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Related Posts:My dad works at a lumber yard. It’s a small town place; been around since 1848. In a sea of gigantic, homogenized lumber yards which feature discount prices (and employees with discount experience) Maze Lumber stands out because of its knowledgeable employees and non-crappy building materials. 
You’d think this would be enough to stand out in the marketplace. However, price competition is a seductive mistress and it can be easy to be intimidated by the Big Boxes (i.e. Wal-Mart, Menards, etc.) and slip into the belief that you must compete on their terms. This ill-fated belief is why so many mom and pop shops go under. You can’t beat the big boys at their own game. But they can’t beat you at yours, either.
A funny thing (among many) has come out of my dad’s decision to undertake The Escape Plan. It all started with Challenge #33 in which he purchased two bow ties from a local men’s clothing store. Then for Challenge #36, he wore one of the ties to work:
So this morning I stood in front of the bathroom mirror and I clipped on the large goldish bow tie. I snapped it into its place and boy did that bring back childhood memories! I wasn’t actually sure if I would wear it all day long especially since I had to go out with our newest salesman to do final measuring of some Marvin windows. This order would be in the $50,000.00 range and I didn’t want to make a bad impression. In the end I decided to just go for it and it was a HUGE success. I think my appearance just tore down the wall of apprehension and it went well. I think that they thought if this guy would wear “that” in public….well whatever.
Back at the shop the customers had plenty of comments when they spotted the bushy bow tie. It just put everyone in a playful mood…I also think that some of our regular customers thought either I was nuts or gutsy.
I think it is interesting that by bravely adding this little touch of childhood to his wardrobe actually helped my dad land the deal. Sure, it went against "societal norms," but societal norms are largely laced with Adultitis anyway. The bow tie helped break down the barriers that typically arise in standard sales situations. But that’s not the end of this story.
Since the first "Bow Tie Day" was such a success, a tradition has emerged. A smorgasboard of ties have been collected and more people are getting in on the act:
Just letting you know that today, Thursday is tie day. The employee response has been huge! Besides myself, Pete, Chadd, Ray, and Todd sported ties and we had our picture taken! The customer response has also been very positive and we are considering other “special” days including Kilt day, dress day for guys only, and thong day. I’ll keep you posted.
Talk about exterminating Adultitis from the workplace! But thanks to this interjection of childhood fun, the team at Maze Lumber now has an even greater opportunity before them. I think they should market Tie Day around the community, and in their ads. Any customer who comes in wearing a tie could save 10% off their order, or get a free box of nails, a free doughnut, or whatever. Maze could take pictures of the tie-wearers, and post them in the office, creating a Tie Wall of Fame. Maybe they could start a contest, in which the customer who comes in wearing the craziest/oddest/most colorful tie wins a fun prize, and THEIR picture ends up in the next Maze newspaper ad. Lots of potential, if you ask me.
The biggest thing it does, besides increasing the comradery and productivity of the employees, is get people thinking and talking about Maze Lumber. It reminds them that these are fun people to do business with. It gives customers an experience. The Big Boxes may have lower prices, but they also have a perception of being sterile, generic, and uncaring. Tie Day can underscore the exact opposite perception for Maze Lumber.
Just a little free advice for the folks down in Peru. But the real question, dear readers, is this: What little sliver of childlike spirit can you introduce to your home or workplace? And what kind of momentous effect might it have?
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An article in the Houston Chronicle by Nicki Britton got me thinking. The article, which appeared in the Food section, features a brand new cereal bar she says is ideal "for those too grown-up for Rice Krispie Treats."
I’ve got nothing against Special K — although it needs a few spoonfuls of sugar to make it palatable in my book — but upon reading this review, I can’t help but think:
Who’s too grown up for Rice Krispie Treats?
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Related Posts:This little exercise has been on a million and one blogs. Just call me Mr. Late to the Party.
Four jobs I’ve had:
Little League Scorekeeper
Concession Stand Manager
Art History Teacher
Wash Boy at a GM Dealership
Four movies I can watch over and over:
Field of Dreams
Napoleon Dynamite
Star Wars
Old School
Four places I have lived:
LaSalle, Illinois
Peru, Illinois
DeKalb, Illinois
Madison, Wisconsin
Four television shows I love to watch:
The Office
Scrubs
CSI:Miami
Numbers
Four places I have been on vacation:
Disney World in Orlando
Dysersville, Iowa (Home of the Field of Dreams)
New York City
Minneapolis, MN
Four of my favorite dishes:
Pizza Hut’s Thin Crust Pizza
Shrimp (and Crab)
Cherry Pie
Dairy Queen’s Ice Cream Cakes
Four websites I visit daily:
Seth’s Blog
Micropersuasion
Church of the Customer Blog
The Escape Plan
Four places I would rather be right now:
Disney World
Hawaii
San Diego
Barnes & Noble
Four bloggers I am tagging:
Kim Kotecki
John Wentz
Daniel Bigler
French Toast Girl
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Related Posts:When I was in high school and college I took the MBTI or Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. ® After answering a series of questions it provides you with your personality profile. There are four divisions of your personality type. They are introversion versus extroversion, sensing versus intuition, thinking versus feeling, and judging versus perceiving. You can read more about each mental process and orientation here.
At first I was skeptical but when I read my profile I was in shock. The profile of my personality type was very accurate. Since then my friends and I have learned more about this test and about the different parts of our personalities. This information that I have about myself and about my friends has given me a clearer understanding about our relationships and communication. It is actually very fun to talk about.
I would highly recommend taking the test and at the very least reading your own profile. You will learn so much about yourself…it is amazing. There are many different ways to take the test. Here is a quick 72 question online version. It’s painless. One piece of advice, don’t think about the questions very long or hard. You know what your teachers used to say, "Your first answer is probably the right one." You can over-think the questions, which may make your results less accurate.
The main reason I’m thinking about the MBTI today is that it has identified a trait within myself that is directly connected to my Adultitis. My type is ISFJ. (Others who share my type are Jerry Seinfeld, Jimmy Stewart and Mother Teresa.) One thing about my personality type is that ISFJ’s have a very strong work ethic, so strong that we think we must earn rest and play.
Once I read this a huge light-bulb went on for me. I cannot give myself permission to rest on the weekend until I have spent an equal amount of time doing something productive. If our schedule requires me to rest, if we have company over or are going someplace, I find myself thinking about what needs to be done (cleaning, bills, shopping, laundry, etc.). This is a problem. Knowing this about myself is key. I have a long way to go before I can claim victory over this, but I think the fact that I am aware of it should help me fight my ‘workaholic’ urges.
The day that Jason and I took off last Tuesday for the final challenge of The Escape Plan was awesome. It was difficult to get past the guilt at first, but I was able to fully enjoy myself. Sometimes I need to force myself to do this. I have a feeling I’m not alone.
Related Posts:I saw the movie Curious George recently. I really liked it. The animation was simple, with it’s own unique style; different from the hi-tech, hyper-realistic animation that is so common these days. The super great soundtrack by Jack Johnson added a pleasant and whimsical unity to the whole thing. The story, of course, was about the little monkey created by Margret and H.A. Ray. It was fairly formulaic, as many movies of this kind are, but still a fun way to spend an hour and a half.
When watching it, I found that there was an uncredited character that appeared quite often throughout the picture: Adultitis. Many of the main characters had cases of Adultitis in varying degrees. Almost all except George himself. But it was interesting to see how they were turned around at different points.
In my book, I talk at length about the importance of curiosity. It is my observation that curiosity runs far and wild in children, before its slowly snuffed out as we advance in years. Many of us stop asking questions, questions like "Why?" and "Why not?" I suppose some of the reasons for this is because we don’t want word to get out that we don’t exactly know everything. Better to act like you’ve got it all figured out than to risk looking like a fool. And even though change is constant, we like to resist it as much as we can. Change is not comfortable, and so instead of asking questions that lead to answers that might require change, we don’t ask them in the hopes of reminding comfortable. But too often we engage in this pride protecting, comfort keeping behavior without ever really considering the consequences.
Seth Godin has an interesting commentary on how we get so wrapped up in the status quo, and go so long without asking questions, that we can lose sight of the reason we started doing something in a certain way to begin with.
The reason that you have a water bubbler in your office is that it used to be difficult to filter water effectively.
The reason the typewriter keyboard is in a weird order is that original typewriters jammed, and they needed to rearrange the letters to keep common letters far apart.
The reason we don’t have school in the summer is so our kids can help with farmwork. Or because it’s too hot and there’s no air conditioning…
The reason you go to a building to go to work every day is that steam or water power used to turn a giant winch-like structure that went right through the factory building. Every workman used that power to do his work. As factories got more sophisticated, it remained efficient to move the workers, not the stuff.
The ones who take the time to be curious, to ask the questions no one else is asking, can open up doors of wonderful opportunity for themselves — or their businesses — and save or gain time and money. So take a cur from George and get curious. Why do you do what you do? The reasons may surprise you.
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Related Posts:Racism, ageism, sexism – these are all wrong and should never be tolerated. On our plane ride home from Tampa the other day I witnessed a new "ism," which I’ve labeled "kidism." I define kidism as prejudice or discrimination against people who are acting like a kid. It differs from ageism in that with ageism the discrimination is directly related to the age of the person, with kidism the prejudice is related to one’s actions instead of their age. Victims of kidism can be both children and adults.
The man who was exercising kidism was sitting next to me. He sat reading his paper for a while. After about twenty minutes the child in front of him, who was about four-years-old, started to play. I’m not even sure what he was doing, but in an appropriate volume, he started to talk, giggle, etc. He seemed to be having fun, which quickly shows up on the radar screen of those who are kidist. About a minute after this little boy started having fun, the man leaned forward, tapped the back of the boy’s seat, and asked him to "keep it down up there, please." The part of this situation that points to kidism, is that the child was not being excessively loud. If the child had been an adult having a conversation with his neighbor he would not have been any louder. So, why did the man have to tell him to "keep it down?"
This is an example of kidism.
There is a fine line between kidism and adults who are annoyed by out-of-control children. Believe me, I’ve been the latter. When parents bring their children into public, it is like putting their parenting skills under a microscope for all to see. Children "test" their parents in public, they try to get away with things and push boundaries. Parents who cannot control their children in public are in a whole different category than what I am referring to.
Adults, like the man on the plane, with severe cases of Adultitis have a hard time being around others who are acting like a kid because it’s like pouring saltwater on a wound. They most likely do not even know they are living with Adultitis and do not realize why they are reacting in this way. They cannot stand being around others who are enjoying the little things, able to be playful, and live with passion. I think it all happens on a subconscious level, but they react in a discriminatory way because of their own distance from this lifestyle.
I guess the best way to fight this prejudice is to be a living example of one who can "be a kid," whether we are four or forty-four. I have been reminded of this point over and over these past forty days as Jason and I took on the daily challenges of the Escape Plan. Who says we have to acquire and maintain stuffy fuddy-duddiness once we are officially members of adulthood. Being adults isn’t the problem, it’s letting go of "being a kid" that gets us into trouble.
I recently had a speaking engagement in Stoughton, Wisconsin and got some interesting e-mail feedback from one of the attendees:
I was at your presentation at St. Ann’s in Stoughton. It was so uplifting and inspiring to me, that I got some moms together and we escaped our adultitis world. During Catholic Schools Week (last week) there was a talent show for the kids. They come up with all kinds of fun talents: joke telling — What do you call cheese that’s not yours? Nacho Cheese! — and singing, piano playing, chicken dancing, etc. Well, I thought that it would be fun if a few moms got up there and embarrassed our kids by doing our own number. We had several women ages mid 20’s to late 50’s. We dressed up in old prom/bridesmaids dresses, slathered on the gaudy blue eye shadow, red lips and used hair brushes for our microphones! We were the last act and came in from the back and surprised everyone as we danced our way up the aisle to the song Dancing Queen. We even had coordinating hand motions. I was kind of expecting the kids to groan and hide their faces behind their hands, but they all jumped up and were screaming and dancing with us. It was like a rock concert!! The parents also joined in and I even saw Father Healy clapping and laughing in the back of the room! It was three minutes of performing, but the "high" was from planning it (laughing hysterically) and even now when I think of it, I can’t help but crack up!!
Thank you so much for encouraging all of us to escape adulthood. We had a blast!!! Being a silly heart is so much more fun than being a grown up!!
Sincerely,
Jenny Wahlin
As a speaker, it’s always gratifying to hear that something you said "stuck." I share this because it’s a great example of what an impact you can make — not only on yourself but on others — when you let your hair down and take some time to escape adulthood. If you have a great idea to inject a little childlike fun into a meeting but are a little skittish to act alone, rope a few others into your plan. Not only will you acquire a little extra courage, you’ll have even more fun, and you’ll treat others to a welcome relief from the daily, adultitis-stricken grind.
The Ottawa Daily Times did a feature story on The Escape Plan today. Thanks to the power of the Internet, you can read it from the comfort of your own computer, even if you don’t live in Ottawa.
In a related story, Jen Robinson of Jen Robinson’s Book Page recently reviewed Escape Adulthood. You’ll definitely want to check out her blog for some suggestions on other good reads for kids of ALL ages.
In an unrelated story, I got to see my new nephew yesterday. I’ve got the uncle role down, but I just can’t imagine what it’s like to be a dad. From what I hear, it’s scary, fun, and fulfilling.
And sticky.
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